On the 18th of January another trans woman took her life, this time in New Zealand, on Auckland’s North Shore. Her name was Charlotte Amelia Loh.
I’ve been trying to write this post since around then, but I’ve been hesitant because I don’t know what else I can say that hasn’t already been covered a million times before by a million trans women. Our deaths are so often punctuated with commentary around the causes and the culture and society we live in, but nothing changes, people don’t listen.
She was 22, two years older than I am. We started transition around the same age, she reported problems with uni, stress, and mental health that hit really close to home. It’s obvious that it doesn’t #GetBetter. We need to improve conditions now.
In her note she specifically asked not to be misgendered or to have her deadname used, but to no surprise her parents have done so. Because of laws around reporting suicides in New Zealand (this post could literally cost me a $1000 fine because I mentioned her name and that it was a suicide) media are calling it a “sudden death”. No discussion will be generated from this, the culture that kills us will continue to do so and we will be swept under the rug.
Her funeral is tomorrow, Saturday the 24th, at the Manakau Memorial Gardens Chapel at 9.30am. There’s a vigil in Albert Park at 7.30pm for the trans community, for people to pay their respects safely.